Monday, April 20, 2009

Bird Party Update

The bird birthday party sort of wiped me out although the dynamo grandparent team of 4 plus Bo did nearly all the work. In the morning, as I was having a lot of pain, I broke down into one of my bad crys and Bo took me to my couch and said, "Carol, I think you still haven't accepted the fact that you are really ill, you can NOT do all the things you want to do now, you must let us do it, maybe it won't be perfect the way you want it but at least we'll try our best and you must accept that, next year you can do more but NOT NOW. Please stop worrying and relax so that you can have energy for what's really important today and that's watching Maya enjoy her party." He's right, I know. Part of me thinks I can still do but I really can't. I get so frustrated.

Maya did have a lot of fun and that's what counts. Her friends were so nice with her and each other, so no problems. We have always had the rule that she can invite the number of children that she is old. So this year she was excited to invite 7 of her closet friends. It makes it so much more managable then having the entire class or all the girls in the class. (many of who have not treated her very nicely at school) Maya has always been one to have just as many guy friends as girl friends so it really isn't her party without a mixture.

One of her favorite friends, Jakob, flew into the party as a black crow! Maya was THRILLED!!!! (Later he gave her a bag of sunflower seeds as one of his presents...what fun!) They played a lot on M's swing set first, then tried to push Pappa into our pond. When they came inside each child made a bird mask (with feathers, sequence and beads) and decorated a pair of toilet paper binoculars (for the bird walk that we didn't have time for!). Next they played "Spin the birdie" to see which present Maya would open up. She got all different things and she was so pleased. One little boy was so cute...a guy after my own heart....he wanted to take home the wrapping paper his gifts were in (very good taste, I might add). The cake was a huge success...8 little birdies sitting in a nest, 4 with baseball caps on, 4 with princess crowns. It was very yummy! We still have half the cake so if you come over you can have a piece!

Since the masks were dry they were able to put them on to go outside again, but the time was nearly finished and we needed to do the "Fish Pond" (fishing for goodie bags). Maya got a little upset because the parents came on time and we hadn't done the raw egg race or the bird walk but we told her we could do it again another day! Bo and I realized that this year was the last for the "fish pond" because they are out growing it. (We'll do a treasure hunt next time.) Everyone stayed a little longer playing in Bo's tent , running around the swing area, and looking for the real fish in our pond. Lots of smiles and the weather couldn't have been better for mid-April!

I will post photos if I can....but I'm having trouble with my photo program as I have too many photos loaded up. (14.000 oucsh!)

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Sunday I took it easy...my mornings have not been so good and I have a lot of pain. I think it is related to what's happening in my digestional track. Gas, poops, whatever....once it comes out eventually I feel better. Early afternoons around 13:00 I'm usually ok. I try to take my whimpy walk then. I can't believe how weak my body has become in such a short time.

My big outing today will be to get medusa (my hair) cut a little bit. I'm dreading telling my hair dresser. I've gone to her for about 8 years. It's always hard telling people the first time...I usually end up trying to make them feel better!

51 comments:

sam said...

OOoh first to comment! Thanks for sharing the lovely day and all the details with us. I wish Emmy were small again so I try out all the wonderful activities of your bird party. Maya is very lucky to have a Mom to make the day special yet keep it simple enough to really enjoy it. You are amazed at how tired you are and we are amazed at how much you do..including keeping up the blog! Take a rest! Sleep and gather your energies for the battle ahead. Lots of love and hugs ...Sam

Lori S-C said...

It sounds like a wonderful party! toilet paper binoculars and everything! You have a wonderful and kind husband. He has some good advice about your wonderwoman tendencies. try to relax a little and not expect yourself to do everything!
BTW, I want to see the pics of the grandparents doing the egg race...

Lori

lizardek said...

I can understand the urge to want to do everything and the frustration of not being able to. Mega-aggravation! It's nice for people to be able to help you out though and they obviously had a great time doing it! Maya's party sounds inspired!

Amanda said...

I'm so glad that Maya's party went well, it's so important to them at that age isn't it? I remember many of the parties my boys had when they were young - we always did them ourselves, never went off to McDonalds, or leisure centres like so many of their friends did, and they were always the most talked about. It's hard to be ill and not able to do everything you want to - I remember how rotten I felt when my CFS was really bad and I had to leave everything to other people - but Bo is so right, you've just got to put yourself and your battle first.

Anonymous said...

Hello Carol! I pryed and sang for you in church today and it felt so good. The energy I felt was so strong. Go for it girl! You´re gonna make it.
Hugs
Åsa

Sheryl(Katz)Goldenberg said...

It sounds like you had a great time at the party. I've been thinking about you. Thanks for sending me the article from John's Hopkins'.

bellblogger said...

The party sounded like great fun. Lots of activities. Erin's party was the same day and I was thinking of you during her party. I will make a post in the next few days with all the details. I know how you feel about wanting to do the work. That's part of the fun of the party. (This is Mary Beth, I'm currently logged in to the bell choir blog, so my user name is different.

Lynne said...

I first 'found' you when you were writing about your trip to Dalarna. I live in south Dalarna. I haven't called for some time so I am surprised and saddened by your news.
Your positivity and strength shines through.
Wishing you well.

Helene M Mikell said...

worried, worried about you, Carol...it's been so long since your post and Tom's update about your hospitalization. Praying that you are OK...
love, Helene

Marie said...

Carol we are all praying for you and the family haven't seen or heard anything in a while , we miss you so much. Bless you all, Marie

Anonymous said...

Thinking of you and your family
Love From all the Barkers

Anonymous said...

Thinking of your constantly. I read in one of the comments above that you are in hospital. My heart is breaking for what you are going through but you are strong, determined and surrounded by love and support.

Thoughts and prayers are constatly being sent.

Love Gail

Anonymous said...

Hej Carol! Hur mår du? Jag hoppas att du blir ompysslad och får en bra behandling. Tänker på dig dagligen och ber för att du ska bli bra. Imorgon har vi vår sista gospelkonsert för den här terminen. Jag ska sjunga så det hörs ända till Perstorp!!!
Många bamsekramar till dig från mig. Åsa

G'G'ma said...

Carol, you and your family continue to be in my prayers. I think of you so often during my day and wonder how you are feeling. And I only know you through blogging, but feel as though we are friends!!!!

SBL said...

Thanks for sharing. May god bless you and your family.

Bill said...

You are in our thoughts and prayers in St. Louis. Loved the picture of you and Tommy when he was a new baby. That was I first met you! Maya is a treasure and you have wonderful pix. Love, Bill and Louise

Marie said...

Hi Carol, you and your family are in my prayers. I am so anixious to hear something and to know how you are doing. All the Posty mPals, send you their love. Hugs and love, Marie

Kelly Sue said...

I know that so many of you check in on Carol's blog. It is with immense sadness that I am relaying the news that Carol has passed away. She died quietly in her sleep this morning, May 14th. I am unsure whether her brother will post a note or not here with more information. Please keep the family in your thoughts and prayers. Thank you.

Isabelle said...

It is with great sadness we heard this morning that Carol is no longer with us. She was a wonderful teatcher and we miss her very much.
Our thoughts goes to her family.

Carol, we miss you.

Isabelle with family
(student at Slotthöjdens school 2002-2008)

Natalie Harris said...

Just can't stand to not have you here...love you woman...always have, always will. We'll keep the GHS blog going...and I am sure I will have to come her countless times to spend some time with your words and deeds and love...and just remember...
XXOOXX

Anonymous said...

Thank you for the update, Kelly Sue. It is news no one wanted to hear. Please post any more news you may hear about arrangements.

Our hearts are broken. Rest in peace, Carol.

Anonymous said...

Carol, I know you can´t read this, but I´m writing anyway, because there is so much I want to say to you. You will always be in my thoughts and in my heart. I just can´t understand any of this...



Therese

Valerie said...

My thoughts and prayers are with your family. I found you through Grandmas blog.

Lori S-C said...

Kelly Sue,
Could you please contact me via email=Lori@artandplay.com

Holly said...

I am very sad to hear this news. I only knew Carol a short while. She was a lovely person with a big heart. I am saying prayers for your family.

Carol said...

I am so sad to hear this news. I am so sorry I never got to meet Carol in person, which I hoped to do as she was planning on visiting Edinburgh this Spring - it wasn't to be.

By thoughts and prayers are with Carol's family at this sad time.

Anonymous said...

We were heartbroken to hear the sad news. Our only comfort is that we feel sure that Carol knew how much we appreciated her. She was a wonderful teacher and a great person who we feel privileged to have had in our lives. Our thoughts go to her family and especially to Maya.

Lynne said...

So sad to hear this news.
My thoughts and prayers to Carol's family at this difficult time.

Kath said...

My love comes to Maya, Carol's beautiful daughter and her wonderful husband and both sets of parents. Sleep tight Carol. Kath in England

Sandi said...

I was deeply saddened to hear that Carol had passed away. Although I didn't know her for very long, she always had a cheerful comment to add when sending an email. My thoughts go out to her family at this sad time.

Kath said...
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Kath said...

Carol has touched the hearts of complete strangers. She must have been a very special person.

Anonymous said...

At this very difficult moment I just have to say a prayer for this beautiful girl that I knew for a short time but she was a kind and helpful lady with me. Carol no more pains God is with you now. My condolences for her Family

Anonymous said...

I am devistated to learn this news. I can't even begin to imagine how those Carol touched for longer than I knew her are dealing with her death. One of the brightest lights has been turned out.

I wish peace and understanding to Bo, Maya, Tom, her parents and in-laws.

Gail (Canada)

Anonymous said...

Hola!

no se como escribirlo, me tomo tan de golpe la noticia, que Carol ha fallecido, con todo respeto les doy mis mas profundas condolencias a sus padres, a Bo, Maya.

no comprendia muy bien el ingles, tristemente me di cuenta hasta hoy de todo.

Querida Carol, Que descanses en Paz.

Ivette y Manuel.

chrisi said...

ich bin sehr traurig das hier zu lesen, ich wünsche der Familie viel Kraft das alles zu bewältigen,Chris

lizardek said...

Just a note to Carol's friends--a book form of her blog is in the works and more info will be posted here once it's ready in the next week or so.

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful idea. I am so glad that her blog will be in a book form. I know Maya will treasure it in the future. Please let us know how we can get it. Also does anyone have any information about the services that were held for Carol? The only information I get is from this blog. Thank you.

Kelly Sue said...

For those of you wishing to know. In a beautifully quiet ceremony this afternoon, we said goodbye to an amazing person named Carol French Doughty. She was a singularly amazing person full of life and love who had the capacity to share that enthusiasm with all she knew. As one of her friends had said, "the world is a grayer place without her in it". How true that is.
Please continue to keep Bo, Maya, her parents and brother all in your kind thoughts as they try to find there way through the sorrow.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the post Kelly Sue.
Rest in Peace dear sweet Carol.

Amanda said...

I'm saddened that I've only just thought to look in the comments for news. I've been checking Carol's blog every day, but never thought to look here before. I only knew Carol via blogs and emails for a short time, but thought her such a special lady, such a fighter. I feel a true sense of loss, and even if no-one comes across this comment now, wanted to send my thoughts to her wonderful family.

Tracey @ozcountryquiltingmum said...

Oh, I hadn't thought to check the comments!!
I only just got to know Carol in the past months and never thought it was at this advanced stage...Hope maya likes the books from Australia...and a blog book is a great idea, love and hugs to all, Tracey

Julie said...

may you always rest peacefully carol. i am so sorry i didn't realise sooner.
my thoughts and prayers are with your gorgeous daughter and your family.
julie x

lizardek said...

Hello all,
I just wanted to let you know that Carol's blog book is published on lulu.com and available for ordering or downloading.

http://www.lulu.com/content/7237361
$10.16 - color cover, black & white interior pages + shipping
This is manufacturing cost, there is no profit involved.
283 pages, 6x9" bound book
or free download (full-color, NOTE! 166MB—it's a HUGE file)

Take care,
Liz

Anonymous said...

I was able to download the blog with no problems. So grateful to have this to remember Carol by. She really had it all. What a wonderful life she had with her daughter and husband. Her parents should be very proud of the daughter they raised.

Anonymous said...

Oh Carol, I have been thinking about you for weeks, but just didn't think about checking the comments! I am heart broken and words cannot express how I feel and how much I will miss you! You were always, and will be, an inspiration to me! Working with you at Arco Iris Primary Center, in Los Angeles, CA, was a blessing and I will always treasure our memories! I will miss you, mi amiga! Please say Hello in Heaven to another friend named Carolyn, who just joined you on June 2! I am convinced that God is collecting all his Angels on Earth for a special gathering in Heaven! May God Bless Bo, Maya, and all those touched by Carol! I love you and will truly miss you! Maribel Flores (La Mirada, CA)

Lori S-C said...

Carol,
Love you and miss you everyday. Today is your birthday and I am going to try to spend the day remembering so many of the good things you brought to my life, like love, kindness and fairness and a voice for those whose who need one. You touched many lives in your short life journey...mine is just one...
Love...

Lori S-C said...

Your birthday, again today, Carol and you are missed and Oh so loved!
In your memory and your honor, I have written a book for Maya and other Children, called Mommy Is in My Heart. It is available at www.heartandplay.com, if any others are interested.
http://www.1shoppingcart.com/SecureCart/SecureCart.aspx?mid=75494D5E-0A01-43E0-8F48-2BDE89D8D4E4&gid=019955f19dade61225f3d6aa87581b98

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday to a beautiful, sweet angel in heaven. Love you. Miss you.

Natalie Harris said...

Somedays...like this afternoon...I like that you are with me. I know you love the autumn too, and that would plant the same tulip bulbs, and will have the same joy at watching them rise in Spring.

Jennifer Walsh said...

Carol, So sorry we drifted apart. I have been reading your blog and missing you. We are all sorry Hillary didn't win. I know you would have loved to be a part of her campaign. We would have had fun quilting together and I know you would be so surprised to know I am going to be a Grandma!!! Can you believe that?? I am just missing you. You were one of my best ever friends. Wish we could talk one more time, Jenny